Men want to control their lives – It’s our training and our nature. We are raised to be independent.
Most men are taught to “pull themselves up by their own bootstraps”. “Be a Man! Life is what you make of it”! We’re told. We are taught early-on that we can author our own destiny; we can be the captain of our soul, the master of our fate—Wrong! Flawed teaching. Men want to control their own lives. To “be a man”. Even if we were not taught to seek independence, which most of us were, our own human nature gravitates in that direction. We want the freedom to chart our own course. We want the power to shape the events of our lives. These are the hallmarks of our desire to be independent. But too often in our effort to be self-reliant, we move away from God and go our own independent way. There is a marked difference between taking responsibility for our lives and trying to live independently from God. We are to take responsibility for our lives—no one will go to work in our place, in most instances, no one will continually pay our bills. The difference is this: responsibility fully recognizes our part and God’s part. Our part is to trust God and faithfully fulfill our duties. God’s part is to provide for all our need and well-being. Independence rebels against the influence of God, thinking it can meet its own needs.
The independent man thinks, “I want to do what I want to do, when I want to do it, wherever I want to do it, with whomever I want to do it. I want to be in control. I want to satisfy my ambitions. I don’t want to be dependent upon anyone. People let me down. God will let me down. I can make it on my own. With independence, I am in control of my life. I have the power, whether through money or influence, to have my way”. The opposite of desiring to be independent of God is to trust Him. The Apostle Paul states it so well: “For in Him we live, and move, and have our being, as certain also of your own poets have said, For we are also His offspring” (Acts 17:28).
Be blessed, Brethren, as we live responsible, yet dependent upon Him, lives.
Pastor J. Amos Jones
